CELEBRITY ADDICTION: Mackenzie Phillips

Yet another star with roots in 60's rock n' roll falls to stardust. 

Perhaps she never had a chance with the reports about her childhood, if you could even call it that. Isn't it ironic that the TV show that made her popular is called One Day at a Time? This phrase is something most addicts live by just to get through a day. How would you survive the following? 

Phillips has said :

"she started using marijuana and LSD when she was 12. Her father showed her how to shoot up when she was 18."

Her friend and co-star Valerie Bertinelli, herself a reformed addict, has come to Mackenzie's defense stating,

"she needs love not judgment."

I do hope Mackenzie finds love and heals her soul. someone needs to share truth and love with her, in fact fill her with it until her pain is transformed into forgiveness. I heard those words coming from my own lips as I was speaking to a friend recently about addiction. I believe it to be truth. in truth, love is the only answer or cure to "sin" or addiction. created as we are, our deepest need is love, acceptance and enduring. 

in a previous post called the patterns we form I wrote about the cycle of family patterns, how addicts beget addicts or co-dependents who hook up with more addicts and co-dependents. to me it's the same pattern since the Garden of Eden when the serpent tempted Eve, she tempted Adam, they both were ashamed, fell from grace and had Cain & Able. Cain killed Able was ashamed and tried to hide, yet was only banished when found out. History never quite gets better, but reveals this chronic pendulum swing from wicked to trying to good and back again. the sins of the fathers following up to 40 generations. so here we are...

the questions to us all: 

Why are drugs/substance/sex abuse the muse and downfall of many musicians, artists and actors? 

How are we to love others enough to stop the insanity of addiction?

WHEN WILL I BE THE ONE TO BREAK THIS PATTERN AN MAKE A NEW ONE?

NOTE: MacKenzie is now Sober after going through Dr Drew's Rehap for Celebrties. Read here

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12 Steps for Believers in Christ

Christian 12 Steps Link to Site

1. We admitted we were powerless over our addictions and dysfunctional- behaviors, that our lives had become unmanageable.
2. Came to believe that God, a Power greater than ourselves, could restore us to sanity and stability.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as revealed in the Bible.
4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as revealed in the Bible, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

Scriptural 12 Steps 

Expanded Version of 1 and 7

STEP 1. We admitted that we had become powerless over alcohol or the alcoholic (the substance we had abused or the substance abuser) and that our lives were unmanageable.There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death. (Prov 14:12) For what I do is not the good I want to do; no, the evil I do not want to do - this I keep on doing. (Rom 7:19) What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body of death? (ROM 7:24)

STEP 7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings and to forgive us – believing He would remove them - and receiving His forgiveness. He who conceals his sin does not prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy. (Prov 28;13) Then I acknowledged my sin to you and did not cover up my inequity. I said, "I will confess my transgressions to the Lord" – and you forgave the guilt of my sin. (Psl 32:5) Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.

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FOOTPRINTS: Amazing Visitors!

PLEASE LEAVE YOUR FOOTPRINT 

with a comment on any of these posts. It's open to everyone to pour out their reactions and comments!

I am amazed at the people from many countries who have visited this site: Israel, Barcelona, Spain, Berlin, Canada, Dominican Republic, Netherlands and the UK. People from many states from coast to coast. it's my hope that we all communicate with each other - leave ideas and get this all in the open... as we share and open up about our secret fears, memories and life issues, we become whole and dispel the darkness with light... 

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Here is a picture I drew when feeling undone about things in my life. 

It's a creative way to express the darkness, but always with hope! life is a process in steps.

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Thought: The Patterns We Form

THE FAMILY TREE

the most revealing view one can have is to look at the family tree and the addictive/codependent tendencies passed from each generation. i grew up close to my father the alcoholic and afraid of the codependent yet dominant mother. most of my relationships both friends and dating were a reflection of either my father or mother. to this day, i seem to collect those who are addicted and need a fixer. being a middle child makes it a perfect job. i see myself in both the addict and the co-dependent but after many years of working through my childhood issues, healing my wounds, i have found a normal balance to my life. 

By the Grace of God and principles found in scriptures I have found inner peace, life and hope. Coping is something of a daily discipline to keep on going, keep on bringing this message of life and love to others... Breaking the pattern of substance, verbal and physical abuse takes great courage. thank you to K.S. for a new site to give women hope and insight... 

HOWEVER, it appears women are getting all the support and help to become whole, while men are not... My prayer is that all men will rise up again to their own manhood of strength, being provider, caring for their wives, children and families without fear.... soon!

Interesting Read about addiction: Narcissism

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Thought: Oh the Pain

the addict complains of life pain, hardship and the joy of being inebriated. it's all about not facing their own ugliness, inadequacies and fears. so they numb it. dumb it, and keep it locked inside. at the same time they blame and abuse the people closest to them with their balls of anger, frustration and depression. those balls come in the form of non-productive lifestyle, land mine temper tantrums, lack of you giving them love and attention. so we carry these balls until finally understanding it's now our problem. then they get mad that you won't play that game. this is the painful cycle day in and day out until one, stops the insanity. 

the addict is like a leech. sucking the life out of those around them even if they are quietly in depression. they live off the life of those who choose life. what don't they get about choice and free will? how can a soul be trapped so strongly into the mastery of a substance, practice or behavior? I really want to know!

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